Comments on: Words http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/ In need of a pause. Sun, 04 Dec 2011 19:55:50 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Kelly http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/comment-page-1/#comment-2809 Kelly Thu, 08 Dec 2005 16:34:25 +0000 http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/#comment-2809 <p>First of all, congratulations on finding the right one!</p> <p>Second of all, some women, like some men view their partners as trophys, or objects..and they don't like it when their toys defect. They feel the world owes them, and obviously someone felt you owed them the courtesy of telling them you were engaged. You don't owe anybody shit.</p> <p>Third, I would say that her sister was probably seriously misinformed as to the nature of the breakup..etc. You know that gal told some tales, right..so she's reacting to misinformation anyway. And it sounds to me like she was hurt because the stories do not match what her impression of you is...if you think you're confused, I bet she is too.</p> <p>You handled yourself with dignity and class and I happen to agree with you on the be careful what you say deal!</p> First of all, congratulations on finding the right one!

Second of all, some women, like some men view their partners as trophys, or objects..and they don’t like it when their toys defect. They feel the world owes them, and obviously someone felt you owed them the courtesy of telling them you were engaged. You don’t owe anybody shit.

Third, I would say that her sister was probably seriously misinformed as to the nature of the breakup..etc. You know that gal told some tales, right..so she’s reacting to misinformation anyway. And it sounds to me like she was hurt because the stories do not match what her impression of you is…if you think you’re confused, I bet she is too.

You handled yourself with dignity and class and I happen to agree with you on the be careful what you say deal!

]]> By: Joan http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/comment-page-1/#comment-2808 Joan Thu, 08 Dec 2005 14:41:45 +0000 http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/#comment-2808 <p>As long as you called it off before the vows were said, you have nothing to feel bad about. I'm sure my ex-husband would have much rather explained to his family and friends that we were splitting up before the big ceremony instead of three years later.</p> <p>You're supposed to move on with your life. Don't let them make you feel bad about it.</p> As long as you called it off before the vows were said, you have nothing to feel bad about. I’m sure my ex-husband would have much rather explained to his family and friends that we were splitting up before the big ceremony instead of three years later.

You’re supposed to move on with your life. Don’t let them make you feel bad about it.

]]> By: amelie http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/comment-page-1/#comment-2807 amelie Thu, 08 Dec 2005 07:24:34 +0000 http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/#comment-2807 <p>you've got class, sir. you've got class. </p> <p>glad you found M, also. ;)</p> <p>also, welcome to the blogosphere, rifle!</p> you’ve got class, sir. you’ve got class.

glad you found M, also. ;)

also, welcome to the blogosphere, rifle!

]]> By: rifle http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/comment-page-1/#comment-2757 rifle Thu, 08 Dec 2005 05:10:00 +0000 http://blog.whenthesmokeclears.us/2005/12/08/words/#comment-2757 (Guest Blogger!!!)

Words have a very powerful meaning to each person in our civilized society. But at what point do they become weapons meant to hurt people? This is something the Supreme Court and many others have tried to answer but have failed. Tonight I have had my own experience but in a very unsettling way. In this post the names have been taken out… because… well… I’m not a complete ass…

A little background is in order for you to fully appreciate the circumstances. I broke up with my ex-fianc?ɬ©e almost one year ago. She and I had differences that we had disputed over for four years. So in my infinite wisdom, I proposed to her with very deep hopes to save a relationship that I really wanted to work.

Well, needless to say, that wasn?¢?Ǩ?Ñ¢t the band-aid to fix and after a while I barely knew my ex-fianc?ɬ©e. In addition, she had cheated on me twice two years earlier, which had tarnished the trust that was once there. Five months before the wedding I finally decided to cancel it. Needless to say, she was not happy. I felt very bad for what I did but I knew it had to be done. In fact, on one occasion after we broke up she asked me ?¢?Ǩ?ìHow am I going to pay for school now??¢?Ǩ¬ù

This reaffirmed my decision and gave me a new way to look at women.

Shortly thereafter, I found out she had gone on a couple of dates with a guy she admitted to me she liked while we were engaged. I was crushed, and felt awful. This sent a clear signal that she was over me and better off without me. About this time, my present fianc?ɬ©e helped me through this time with words of inspiration and comfort.

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